Love in the Time of Twilight
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Blog, Eming Piansay
Jul 13, 2010
After going through the stressful progress of moving my life out of my parents’ house and into my new pad, and then getting my wallet snatched, I really needed to turn my brain onto autopilot. Thankfully, I figured the new flick Eclipse would satisfy my mind-numbing needs. This was probably the first installment of the Twilight franchise where I wasn’t trying to gnaw my arm off to stay conscious. It was entertaining enough, but there were a few scenes here and there where I dropped my head into the palm of my hands and sighed.
As entertaining as the movie was, I do have several issues with the story itself, which isn’t restricted purely to the movie but the book as well.
As humans we are obsessed with the idea of finding ‘true love’ in ‘the one’ person that will bring total, unbridled bliss into our lives. We were already on an unredeemable path in that respect, but I do feel as if the Twilight series has only made the outlook of young females’ standards become ridiculously unrealistic.
This isn’t necessarily new, but it doesn’t mean it’s a good thing.
I recently spoke to one girl who hopes to get hitched by the time she turns 16 years old. I was horrified. I can’t envision myself getting married at 16 years old, much less at 24.
Whether or not this is the aftermath of the Twilight series, it is frustrating to see so many young women buy into this Hallmark-style, Twilight-produced belief that the ultimate goal in life is to find a Mr. (hell, even a Mrs.) Right.
Another young person I know, who has yet to be in a relationship, is about to jump into a long distance relationship via the phone, with someone who is on the verge of getting a divorce. She is pretty much going along with the whole business based on her feelings and the fact that she "trusts him". Though I don’t know how much you can trust someone you’ve never met.
What drives me insane about Twilight’s Eclipse is that it doesn’t even set a semi-good example of what young girls should be looking for.
I mean, to me, the entire scope of Bella and Edward’s relationship in the movie is built on sexual desire -- the fact that they can’t have sex -- which is what keeps them going. I suppose that is just a reflection of youth culture to some extent. We run on the high of sexual tension, waiting for some kind of explosion of ecstasy, or what we think is ecstasy.
If Twilight were trying to teach young girls a lesson, Bella would probably end up with Jacob. Firstly, Bella does not have to “die” to be with him, something I equate to changing for the bad in the real world.
Bella and Edward’s relationship reminds me a lot of the last one I was in. It’s all great and nice in the beginning, and you feel this deep connection that you can’t understand. It feels like whatever you feel for this particular person makes you feel so powerful, like you can take on the world. But you don’t really see, or just conveniently are ignorant to, the fact that this so-called relationship is draining the life out of you.
I had a friend who was so obsessed with being in a relationship that she drove all her friends away because all she cared about was herself, and her significant other. Everyone else became insignificant, which ultimately formed a rift between her and everyone else.
I don’t see Twilight as a love story, like so many of the young girls who dream of having a boyfriend like Edward. I see it as a cautionary tale. ‘Cause if you’re not careful, love will suck the life out of you, and all you’ll have is that one other person. Because of the life you’ve chosen, everyone else that really loved you won’t be around anymore. And by the time you realize it – well – it doesn’t make sense to have eternal love if you don’t have anyone else (beside your significant other) to share it with.
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