Its A Great Time To Be Gay
Commentary, Melissa Vargas
Aug 14, 2010
As a little girl you dream of the day you find the perfect husband who loves you and cares for you, the one you will say "I do" to. You dream of the day you get to wear your mom's wedding dress and have your dad walk you down the aisle. Well, what happens when you realize that because your dreams are different from the "typical" dream, they can't come true?
I am 17 years old now, and my dreams have changed a little since from when I was a little girl. I'm not so much into this whole wedding and signing a paper type of stuff, BUT! I still do envision a wedding, I've just made a few changes and adjustments to this dream wedding of mine.
See, in my wedding there's no tux or black shiny shoes. There's no tie and button up shirt as well as no best man. In my dream wedding there is no groom nonetheless there is no "perfect man" (not that there is one anyways) waiting for me at the end of the aisle.
But...isn't that how it's supposed to be? Well not for me! See, in my dream wedding there's two dresses, weird huh?. Two pairs of heels, two veils, and a beautiful woman who I love waiting for me at the end of the isle. (or the other way around:] )
I am 17 years old, I am Mexican, Gay and hella PROUD! All my life I've been raised to know I will soon find a nice man who loves me and takes care of me who I will have children with and will share the rest of my succesful life with...
But I'm gay. Deciding to come out to my parents was maybe the hardest thing I've had to do all my life! I had to ask myself if my parents were proud to have an amazing daughter with a strong powerful mind of her own. Not even my AP exams were that stressful and scary. To make the neverending story short, basically, my parents don't approve of it but somehow "support" me. Although confusing, there's nothing confusing to me about who I know I am and at the end that's all that truly matters. But enough of me Proposition HATE ( 8 ) terminated.
All I can say is, its ABOUT TIME!!! These people making life changing decisions are supposed to be at the highest level of education that can be possibly achieved. I thought they would know by now someting as simple as Equal means Equal. Its not rocket science.
This decision has made a huge impact in the gay community and maybe created a better future for gay couples who have longed for this day. Different people see the "Gay Movement" in many different ways. Not many people see how truly important this can be, to everyone whether gay or straight because you never know who it may affect. We (gay people) seem not to get "counted" in any of these "big decisions".
Despite the fact that at the moment I'm not so much looking into marriage, for me its important for gay people to have the right to get married and live life how it's suppose to be. Being gay does not make us less human, it does not mean we have no feelings or a heart. Why should'nt we get treated the same? Love has taught me that there is no boundaries what so ever. Love prefers no color, no size, no race, and definitely no gender. When you love someone with all your heart and passion, it does not matter if it is a man or a woman, the feeling in your heart beat with theirs is all that matters.
Maybe one day people will realize what the power of love can achieve. Maybe one day the will realize that we are not any different than them (those who oppose gay people and their rights). We will not give up our rights, hopes and nonetheless, our dreams.
Proposition 8 was the most stupid, hateful, and the most time I ever waited for a proposition to be made. But, I'm actually glad it was made because it only gave us one more chance to prove how stong we are. It gave us the opportunity once more to prove to every hater that we stand together and stronger than ever. We as a community got to prove that nothing can break us apart. I am more inspired now to keep going with my head high and my rainbow smile ;)
Let this be the beginning of a never ending Colorful Love Battle. Stand proud for who you are.1 of 1